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Physical or Mental: Affects are just the same

Whether the abuse is physical or mental, the effect it can have on the person is tremendous. Quite often people say 'well, you should just leave', but it's never as easy as that.

Victims of domestic abuse will tell you it's not that you don't want to leave, it's that every ounce of self worth, pride, confidence and love has been taken from you. Every inch of strength you had which could have seen you over the step and out the door is gone.

No self-worth, no dignity

Abusers don't just injure you physically, but they take away everything you are as a person too. You feel worthless, unattractive, insignificant, just existing from one day to another hoping that you don't do anything to upset your partner so they attack you and leave you in a heap on the bathroom floor with yet another black eye, or a broken rib, or a swollen lip.

We all know about it, but it's hard to take it in, to believe that is going on around you, that someone could put up the abuse, let their children see the abuse, let their lives be taken over by it.

But it exists. The law is getting tougher on those who inflict domestic abuse on their partners or victims. But paying attention to the signs could help you spot someone you feel is vulnerable, maybe to the point you might be able to help.

Support, lean on someone

That one opportunity to talk or just to say 'I'm here if you need me'.

When domestic abuse is reported, it's often up to the victim to press charges and have the strength to see things through. This is when they need the support the most, to ensure they are moved to safety, protected and given all the support they need to step forward and make a new life without fear and injury and reprisal.

Be aware, be there.

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